Choosing Intentional Peace This Holiday Season
Hey you beautiful soul,
The holiday season has a way of sweeping us up in its whirlwind of gatherings, expectations, and “should-dos.” It’s a time when joy and connection should take center stage, but too often, we find ourselves pulled back into old patterns—overcommitting, people-pleasing, or simply giving more than we have to give.
But here’s the truth: the peace you’ve worked so hard to nurture isn’t something to trade for chaos—not even for the sake of tradition or holiday cheer. This year, let’s make a conscious choice to protect that peace. Let’s decide that this season will be filled with what serves us, not what drains us.
3 Ways to Establish Healthy Boundaries
Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you love or care less—it means you are honoring yourself and your relationships by showing up as your best, most present self. Here’s how you can prioritize intentional peace this season:
Say “No” Without Guilt
Not every invitation deserves a “yes.” Ask yourself: Does this align with my capacity, values, and energy? If the answer is no, it’s okay to decline. You can say something like, “Thank you for thinking of me, but I can’t commit to that right now. I hope it’s wonderful!” You don’t owe anyone a long explanation—your peace is reason enough.Communicate Your Needs
Before heading into family gatherings or other events, decide what you need to feel grounded. Share that with trusted loved ones. For example: “I’ll need to step away for some quiet time after dinner,” or “I’ll be leaving by 8 p.m. so I can honor my routine.” Clear expectations help avoid misunderstandings and give you permission to honor yourself.Stick to Your Non-Negotiables
Your routines are anchors, especially in busy seasons. Whether it’s your morning prayer, journaling time, a workout, or an evening wind-down ritual—don’t abandon the practices that keep you centered. Let those moments be non-negotiable, no matter how full your schedule feels.Limit Time With Energy Drainers
We all know people or conversations that leave us depleted. Be intentional about the time and energy you give. If a conversation starts to pull you into old stress or tension, excuse yourself with kindness: “I’m going to grab some air for a minute—let’s catch up later.”Make Peace a Priority Over Perfection
Let go of the need to create a “perfect” holiday and focus on creating a peaceful one. The house doesn’t need to be spotless. The meal doesn’t need to impress everyone. Your presence and calm spirit are more than enough.
3 Ways to Step Away and Reset
Sometimes, you just need a moment to yourself. Here are a few simple activities to help you pause, breathe, and reset:
Take a Solo Holiday Walk
Step outside, bundle up if needed, and just walk. Notice the sounds, the smells, and the stillness of nature. Use this time to pray, reflect, or simply enjoy silence.Create a 10-Minute Quiet Space
Set a timer and step into a room with no distractions. Light a candle, sip tea, listen to calming music, or sit in silence. These 10 intentional minutes can calm your nervous system and restore your energy.Journal Your Gratitude
Grab a notebook and list 5 things you’re grateful for right now—big or small. Gratitude has a way of shifting our focus back to what really matters and grounding us in the present.
Protect Your Peace, Protect Your Joy
Beautiful soul, as you move through this holiday season, remember: it’s okay to prioritize yourself. It’s okay to choose peace over people-pleasing. It’s okay to say no, set boundaries, and still show up with love and grace.
You’ve worked too hard on your healing journey to let old chaos disrupt your new peace. Honor your growth. Protect your heart. Let this season be one where you give yourself the greatest gift of all: peace.
With love and encouragement,
Jamie Miles Haynes
Your guide for healing, growth, and lasting transformation.
P.S. If you need a reminder, repeat this to yourself: “I choose peace. I honor my boundaries. I am worthy of rest and joy.” Keep shining, beautiful soul!
